Was hanging out with gandi two days ago, for one of the last times in a long while (two months or indefinitely =P). We went into serious business best friends mode, and he questioned: “What are you seeking out of this trip?” At first, I was really annoyed, thinking “You encouraged me to do something for myself, but now you want me to explain myself?” This feeling only lasted a split second though, cause I know he wants me to do this for myself, and not run away from my circumstances.
Like I mentioned in my previous ponder, change is what I am seeking, but it is not massive. I haven’t laid out any big plans… I just feel, change will happen, it is a natural progression. It is inevitable. Change will hit us front, back and center throughout our lives, but it is whether we choose to accept it, or stagnate.
It seems in our nature to hate and reject change of all sorts, whether we want it or if it was forced upon us. It makes us question and doubt ourselves, “Is this what I REALLY want?” or “Is this the right choice?”. It makes us uncomfortable. But if we stay in our little safe boxes, we have no space to grow. We only feed our excuses to stay in the box, we settle for less cause we can’t fit anything else into the box. And we go through life wondering why nothing exciting ever happens. Gandi wrote a really good post abt not fearing change, and his own experience of leaning into it. He concluded with:
Don’t be afraid of change, people. We tend to get ourselves in a safe little corner, and even when we’re unhappy with what that corner turns out to be, we become so attached to it that the alternative seems too difficult to overcome. But in the end, you can either sit there in your corner and live with what you have, or you can take a risk, change things up and try for something better. Some famous dude once said “If we don’t change, we don’t grow. And if we don’t grow, we aren’t really living.” So to anyone out there, who managed to get through to this novel and is unhappy even in the slightest; change something. Change your attitude, or your job, or your home, or your partner (try this one last though =P) and just see what happens. I daresay, once the aftershock passes you will be glad to have done it. It was easily the best decision I ever made in my life. tl;dr: Don’t be afraid of change.
I know change is inevitable, for me it has already begun. But my fears start to rev up and I worry: is this the right thing to do? I/You will know that it is the “right” thing to do, because you are currently unsatisfied with.. well life. Change is what we make of it, right? You gotta lean in and embrace it for it to make any positive impact. Otherwise, it’s just another opportunity that slipped you by.